The Rev. John Gage, pastor of United Church on the Green in New Haven, Conn., stands among the nearly 4,000 post-it notes on display in the church's 200-year-old meeting house. Each post-it represents both the life of a single American serviceperson killed in Iraq, as well as 20 Iraqi civilians killed in the war. "Our prayer each Sunday now is that 'God will keep the costs of our decisions always before our eyes,'" Gage says.