Promising Friendship

July 11, 2012

Excerpt from 1 Samuel 23:14-18

"[David and Jonathan] made a sacred promise of friendship to each other." (Good News Bible)

Reflection by William C. Green

It's hard to have close friends. Some blame this on the pace and pressure of life today, with financial and career demands more time-consuming than ever. Others argue that social networking lets simpler virtual friendship make up for the real thing.

But as psychologists point out, the absence of close friendship leaves a void that the best marriages and closest partnerships can't fill. Primary loyalties reach a breaking point when made to carry the full emotion of both parties. Relationships fall apart, and rates of loneliness, depression, and even suicide grow.

Earlier cultures traditionally considered friendship so important that newborns were assigned a best friend right at birth! Mary Wollstonecraft, one of the earliest advocates of women's rights, spoke of both men and women in noting that while Eros is transient, "the most holy bond of society is friendship." She echoes Aristotle's argument that friendship is essential to the public good by enlarging understanding beyond private and domestic life.

The Bible itself speaks not only of the love, mercy, and judgment of God, but of the friendship of God. Abraham and Moses are called "friends of God." God needs others. That's why we were created. In the divine image, we in turn are made to need others - not only as with Adam and Eve but also Naomi and Ruth, Jonathan and David, and the friendship commended elsewhere in Scripture. Jesus calls us friends (John 15:12).  He says we reciprocate by being a good friend of others.

Prayer

May I be a good friend of yours, God, by being a better friend of others. Amen.

About the Author
William C. Green is Vice-President for Strategy and Development, Moral Courage Project, NYU Wagner Graduate School of Public Service, and the author of 52 Ways to Ignite Your Congregation: Generous Giving.

SECTION MENU
CONTACT INFO

Ms. Christina Villa
Director of Publishing, Identity & Communication
700 Prospect Ave.
Cleveland, Ohio 44115
216-736-2173
villac@ucc.org