Excerpt from Ephesians 6:21-24

"I am sending [Tychicus] to you for this very purpose, to let you know how we are, and to encourage your hearts."

By Ron Buford

Willie "Brown" Flake, a close family friend from my childhood church, didn't say much. He was a handy and likeable guy—so likable that when Dad bought me a Yogi-bear t-shirt, I asked him to buy one for Brown as well. Dad often called Brown when stuck on a home or car repair project. Brown stopped by for chats with Dad, opening the back door without knocking,  mumbling, "Make some coffee,  James."  The two men poured coffee, ate Mom's homemade pound cake or cobbler, pored over the Bible, laughed and talked for hours . . . Dad did most of the talking.

But in the religious tradition of my childhood, one could be "unctioned," or moved by the Spirit to make a holy interruption in worship. Brown was sometimes "unctioned," speaking uncharacteristically, with praise—for the choir,  musicians,  the pastor, whomever or whatever was worthy.  We were all transformed.
Tychicus must have been a lot like Brown, sent by Paul at a time of great persecution and fear to encourage hearts and transform moments.

In our churches, families, and relationships, we can choose today to mindfully encourage and transform moments. Psychologists suggest that most egos can only withstand two criticisms a week—most men only one. With criticism being as small as "I wish you'd wear this instead of that," listen to how often you criticize; it may surprise you. Choose instead to be an encourager of hearts. "Open and affirming" is a lifestyle.

Prayer

Gracious God, Please help me speak words today that encourage hearts. Help me notice when my words do not encourage and stop me, because I've experienced such words—like nails in wood,  removable but leaving deep holes. For the words like scars I've already spoken but cannot call back, please forgive me and bring Your healing as only You can do. And take my heart; encourage me as well. I need Your encouragement to make it through today and every day. Amen.

About the Author Ron Buford, former coordinator of the UCC's God is still speaking campaign, consults with religious and nonprofit organizations, leads workshops, and preaches in churches across the U.S. and U.K. Ron also appears in the DVD-based progressive theology series, Living the Questions 2.0.

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